Chapter 1: Confronting Fear in Writing

It's time to stop allowing our fears to dominate our writing journey.

I've realized for quite some time that my writing remains largely unread by those closest to me. While you're engaging with my words, my friends and family often don't know what I'm working on or the genre I'm focused on. This lack of support has led me to:

• Question my abilities in writing and editing — Am I competent enough?
• Doubt my potential for success with each article I publish — Will this piece ever sell? Will I earn anything?
• Worry about my sustainability as a writer — Can I maintain this for the long haul? Will there always be an audience for my work?

While my loved ones aren't entirely at fault, it's easy to assume that if they don't show interest, neither will others. This irrational conclusion fuels further fears about achieving success as a writer.

Does this resonate with you? You're not alone in this struggle; many writers share these irrational anxieties.

To succeed and monetize our writing, we must boldly confront our fears.

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The Fear of Perfection

Every time I visit my stepdad, he finds ways to correct my spoken English. Unlike my writing, where I meticulously edit, my verbal communication is spontaneous and often lacks refinement.

Initially, I shrugged off his comments. However, after these encounters, I began to scrutinize every word I wrote, leading to self-doubt after rejections.

"I knew I wouldn't get it right," I'd tell myself.

Embracing Our Humanity

My stepdad often overlooks an essential truth: we are human, and making mistakes is part of our nature. We shouldn't let the fear of imperfection paralyze us.

It's crucial to accept that:

• It's okay to mess up.
• Mistakes are part of the journey.

Transforming Mistakes into Success

I've posted articles that I thought would fail, only to find them thriving. If we get lost in the quest for perfection, we might not even attempt to write.

To write, we must be willing to try.

The Illusion of Perfection

Perfection is an impossible standard in writing. Beyond a few grammatical rules, there is no universal right or wrong. Our expressions are subjective.

Every piece we publish may not resonate, but that doesn't equate to failure.

The Fear of Rejection

Rejection can hit unexpectedly. After pouring my heart and soul into an article, I often dread the feedback, fearing I’ve upset the editor.

Writers often feel like they lose in the publishing game.

Letting Go of People-Pleasing

The phrase "you can't please everyone" often feels dismissive, but in writing, it holds truth.

Remember:

• You don’t write for everyone.
• Your audience should be specific.

If one editor doesn’t connect with your work, move on. There are many others who will appreciate your unique voice.

Understanding the Business of Writing

Writing is a business. While it may start as a creative pursuit, for those seeking publication and profit, the personal aspect must take a back seat.

Editors operate within a framework, and it's essential to navigate this landscape effectively.

The Fear of Losing Your Platform

As social media platforms evolve, many writers fear losing their established avenues.

However, change is part of growth. Reflecting on my journey shows how I've adapted to past technological shifts.

Staying Agile as a Writer

Remaining adaptable is vital. The writing landscape will continue to change, and we must be ready to adjust.

Confronting Online Criticism

While I typically don’t engage in negativity online, the thought of harsh criticism from trolls is daunting.

Their presence can amplify our inner doubts, but we must not let them dictate our worth.

Using Criticism to Fuel Growth

As Lady Sovereign points out, whether people love or hate us, it can drive engagement.

Trolls can inadvertently enhance our visibility and boost our statistics, making their presence a double-edged sword.

The Greatest Fear: Being Ignored

My love for writing has always been about expressing my thoughts for an audience. Yet, the fear of my work going unnoticed looms large.

If we let fear consume us, we may never write again.

If We Write It, They Will Come

Writing requires courage and hope. The more we write, the greater our chances of being heard.

Every piece we create could open doors to new opportunities. But if we remain silent, those opportunities will pass us by.

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